Becoming A Proverbs 31 Woman: 1 Virtue At A Time Week 11 Lesson 11

Week 11 Lesson 11

Be The Woman Your Man Needs

Proverbs 31:29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”

We have seen the Proverbs 31 woman pour her life out for her family. We’ve watched her work hard. And here we find her reward: Her husband praising her. Let’s just stop right here! I know what some of you are already thinking, "My husband never praises me, all he does is criticize me!” You are imagining that I have a husband who daily says remarkable things about what I do in the home, with the children and my ministry? Nope! That is not the case – though I do have a husband who I know is pleased with me. He does not go around pouring out praise. I live in a normal marriage where my husband sees my flaws and will even mention things that need to be addressed that are being neglected. And when he points those out it’s like a dagger to my heart. I take it very personally and seriously. That’s something he wishes I would not do. But I know he knows – “I’m striving to be the Proverbs 31 woman whose husband praises her. You see, no amount of positive reader comments, worldly accolades, praise from my parents, friends, pastor or even praise from the kids can compete with my desire to please my husband. The Proverbs 31 woman knew her husband’s needs, met them and as a result he praised her. If we neglect what our husbands ask for, ignore their advice, withhold love in the bedroom (*wink*), and refuse to submit and respect them -it’s inevitable – we will not get a whole lot of praise from our husbands. We can be the best room mother, best career woman, best servant at church, or best friend another woman can have but when we come home – if our husband’s needs are not met - we have failed to be like the Proverbs 31 woman. Every husband has different needs. Every marriage will look different as a result. We need to listen to our husbands. I believe if we follow God’s word and apply it in our marriages our husbands will one day say, “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”

The Proverbs 31 Woman’s Beauty Secret

Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

What a joy it has been to study this lovely lady with you! We have seen her beauty shine as she serves her husband and children with every bit of strength and love she has. As we come to verse 30, we are reminded that this chapter was written by a mother telling her son what to look for in a wife (found in Proverbs 31:1). Ladies, if you have sons – listen up to the warnings you must give your sons!

1. Charm is deceptive – Charm is the use of the womanly ways of displaying kindness, agreeableness, flattery and affection to hook a man. Then once she is married, the real woman comes out and it was all a lie. For the charming woman is not nearly as kind, agreeable or affectionate as the woman the man fell in love with. This poor husband is now trapped in this marriage that began as deception!

2. Beauty is fleeting – Men desire something beautiful to feast their eyes on, and guess what ladies? God made us all with eyes, hair, and curves that please your man. But marrying a beauty will not make a great marriage! The beauty will fade and if she is not beautiful on the inside, this husband is trapped! Remind your sons to not fall into the traps of charm and beauty! But rather remember: “A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” The woman who fears the Lord will have a God conscienceness. She will be aware of God’s presence in her home at all times. She will work tirelessly and sacrificially to create a home that is filled with peace, joy and comfort. This woman loves the Lord and desires to please him. She serves her husband and children because of her higher desire to please the Lord. When marriage difficulties arise, this woman remains unwavering in her faith and dedication to pleasing God. She does not respect and submit to her husband based on her husband’s worthiness but out of her love and fear of the Lord. She knows when her husband is acting ugly that there is a God in heaven who loves her and whom she serves and so she presses through those difficult times remaining unwavering in her dedication to him. This woman’s faith is her beauty secret.

Her faith makes her gorgeous, desirable, praiseworthy, admirable, noble and indeed RARE! It’s the charming and beautiful women who grace the cover of magazines. Have you seen the picture of a woman who fears the Lord on the front cover of a magazine lately? Nope? Me neither! This world has fed us lies about beauty! And for far too long we have fallen for them! Why do we so painfully compare ourselves to these faithless, deceptive, fleeting beauties? We have been fearing man rather than fearing God. Listen to me – your faith makes you beautiful! Your faith makes you praiseworthy! We must teach this to our sons and daughters!

That concludes Week 11 Lesson 11 of Becoming A Proverbs 31 Woman. Please ladies comment, remark, and participate. As always I love hearing from you.  I always enjoy sharing with you guys. The comments area is always open for your sharing weekly. Remember, what you share may help someone else. Simply because we are all different and no two of us think alike. So, please share your thoughts, comments, and stories. If you want to reach me personally, you have the website information also the info below.

Word of prayer

Lord, we know that we are not perfect, and that our husbands or busbands to be aren't either. But you have taken our marriages and helped up us to mold them into kingdom marriages. Help us to continue seeking you in all we do. These things we ask in Jesus' name. Amen

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