Becoming A Proverbs 31 Woman: 1 Virtue At A Time Week 9 Lesson 9

Week 9 Lesson 9

Let Me Help You Pick Out Your Clothes

Proverbs 31:25 “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”

We’ve watched the Proverbs 31 woman be a jewel to her husband, children, servants and even the poor. We’ve watched her rise early, stay up late, plant a vineyard, sew her own clothes, her family’s clothing, the tapestries and beddings! And the cherry on top of all of this woman’s work is excellence!

This verse adds a couple new character traits:

1. Strength

2. Dignity

3. Laughing at the days to come

When I look at these three qualities I have only one thing to say. This is a confident woman. She is strong, she is dignified, and she is not fearful of her future. Do you struggle with fear, maybe of being rejected, failure, saying something stupid, not being good enough, pretty enough, organized enough, or just plain enough? 

What’s beautiful about the Proverbs 31 woman is she is human, flawed, but not exposed. She's clothed  in strength and dignity. I pray when you see me, just your regular woman, you will see God’s strength and dignity clothing my weaknesses. When I take my eyes off of myself and put them on my amazing God – my fears flip to confidence. And he gives me the confidence to say to you, my sister in Christ, you can be strong. Do not live in your fears. Do not wring your hands and lose sleep over today’s troubles. Clothe yourself in God’s strength. Be confident. He who laid the earth's foundations, marked off its dimensions, placed the stars in the sky, gives dawn its orders, keeps the storehouses of snow, and tells the lightening to disperse, loves you, flaws and all (taken from Job 38). And he has clothed you in his strength. Do not exchange your clothes for the rags this world offers! Because sister in Christ – those clothes you are wearing today are radiant!

Putting Order On Your Tongue

Proverbs 31:26 says “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.”

As we have studied the Proverbs 31 woman, we have seen her put order into every aspect of her life. We’ve watched her be a jewel to her husband, children, servants and even the poor. We’ve watched her rise early, stay up late, plant a vineyard, sew her own clothes, her family’s clothing, the tapestries and beddings! Besides all the great stuff she's already good at, this woman’s work is excellence! As she puts order into her home, we find that she also puts order on her tongue. James 3:2 says “If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man.” This is no small task to put order on her tongue. She is not perfect but she is diligent to make every effort to filter her words! We find two rules of order that she followed:

1. She spoke only wise words.

2. She spoke only kind words.

Where does her wisdom flow from? From her walk with God, from her life experiences, from wise mentors, wise friends and perhaps good solid literature.

Are you walking with God daily? Are you pondering your life experiences long enough to gain wisdom from them?

Do you have a wise mentor, mother or grandmother?

Do you have wise friends?

Are your reading materials filled with rich wisdom?

OR are you too busy to read your Bible?

Too busy to reflect on your daily happenings to pull wisdom from them?

Have you chosen poor friendships?

Do you choose to fill your mind with the world’s wisdom through television, magazines and websites filled with celebrity gossip?

If you lack wisdom start by digging into God's word TODAY in the book of Proverbs. Start in chapter one and get reading! Then pray.

James 1:5 says “If any of you lacks wisdom he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.”

Now think of those in your family who are affected most by the words you say. Have you considered that they too are weary pilgrims in a dry desert who need a fountain of life pouring forth wisdom and kindness to survive. You can know a woman’s character by her choice of words. 

Would your family say you are kind? It doesn’t matter how beautiful your hair, makeup or clothes are, it’s the words coming out of your mouth that determine your true beauty. What can we do to work on kindness?

1. Practice self-control with your emotions. Try to not be overly emotional and don't speak rapidly when you are angry. All of those rapid words are unkind.

2. Watch sarcasm – it usually reveals a bitter heart.

3. Watch critical remarks – they are red flags revealing a proud, envious, selfish or angry heart.

Here’s your to-do list for the day:

♦Let your husband hear you teaching your children God’s wisdom.

♦Be gracious with your words towards others.

♦Be gentle with others.

♦Be quick to notice others' strengths and slow to point out others' flaws.

♦Purify your heart through the reading of God’s word and put aside all anger, bitterness, malice, slander, envy, and self-pity. Put order on your tongue as you Walk with the King!

That concludes Week 9 Lesson 9 of Becoming A Proverbs 31 Woman. Please ladies comment, remark, and participate. As always I love hearing from you.  I always enjoy sharing with you guys. The comments area is always open for your sharing weekly. Remember, what you share may help someone else. Simply because we are all different and no two of us think alike. So, please share your thoughts, comments, and stories. If you want to reach me personally, you have the website information also the info below.

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Lord thank you for visitation and showing up in our lives. Thank you for helping us gain the knowledge we need to be the woman our husbands and husbands to be need. For them and the kingdom. We pray that your will be done in our lives as we seek you and share the gospel. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.

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