Becoming A Proverbs 31 Woman: 1 Virtue At A Time Week 2 Lesson 2

Week 2 Lesson 2

Welcome back ladies. This is week 2 and we are going strong with the book of Proverbs chapter 31. 

Proverbs 31- Can Your Husband Really Trust You?

Proverbs 31:11 “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value."

Proverbs says when a man has full confidence in his wife, he lacks nothing of value. That means this character quality is of supreme importance. A wife who is solid both emotionally and spiritually makes a husband feel he can rest on his wife’s steady support. Can your husband trust you in these areas?

1. Money – Can he depend on you to spend it wisely?

2. Children – Can he trust you to train your children wisely?

3. Home – Can he trust you to run an orderly home?

4. Reputation – Can he trust you to not speak poorly of him behind his back?

5. Faithfulness – Can your husband trust you to not build emotional connections with other men?

6. Emotions – Can your husband trust you to be self-controlled when under pressure?

7. Choices – Can your husband trust you to make wise choices when urgent situations arise?

We are not perfect, we all make mistakes. I certainly have not always made the wisest choices. But I am striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman and that woman is a woman whose husband has full confidence in her.

I will share one thing with you guys. Personally, I am very good with money. My only flaw is helping people so much it almost causes me to become an enabler. I learned it's ok to help, but only if it's at God's leading and if you and you're husband discuss and agree upon it.

Think about these questions.

1.Does your husband have full confidence in you?

2.If not, what areas can you change in your own life so you can gain this character quality?

I'd like you ladies to take the time to go over the list and see if and where you fall short. Then list them and what you can do to change those areas. Please don't hesitate to share, we can gain so much from each other.

Take these areas of flaw to prayer and watch God work it out for you.

Comments at the bottom please and thank you. Moving right along..next we go to,

Proverbs 31:12 Being A Woman Of Action

Proverbs 31:12 “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

So far we have seen that a Godly wife is rare and a treasure to her husband and he can fully trust her in all areas. Now, let's look at her actions.

The Proverbs 31 woman “brings her husband good, not harm.” Where does this goodness come from? It comes from her walk with God – it's a fruit of the Spirit. Good is a part of her character. Who does she do good to? Her neighbors, PTA, or scrap booking friends? Nope – first and foremost – her husband!

She doesn't talk about doing good to her husband – she actually DOES it! She willingly cooks, cleans, cares for the children and stretches a dollar. She willingly submits, respects and praises her husband. She willingly responds to his physical touch and seeks to satisfy him in the bedroom. (wink wink, we all know how to please our man I hope, or our men to be , whom we are prayerfully seeking God on how to make sure we are good in that department :)). She doesn't criticize him over his flaws but loves him in spite of. She knows the power of her words and she wouldn't use them to harm him in a moment of anger. That's control ladies. It takes some restraint to hold our tongues. I've been there. I practice being slow to speak and slow to respond as well as becoming angry.

Let's look at the very first marriage of the Bible, we see the glaring example of Eve harming Adam, unintentional but nevertheless harmful. She took the bite of the fruit and invited him to join her in her sin. He foolishly followed her lead! A wise woman understands her power of influence to persuade her husband to do things that without her nagging, begging, manipulating or crying, he would not choose to do. We must not attempt to lead our husbands – but allow them to lead us (Ephesians 5). Now pulling a blast from the past, some of us were never married, or had bad marriages or even are married now. I'm saying this to say, we weren't always "Christian" women, so we had to take care of ourselves and lead ourselves until salvation was introduced to us. We may have had to run a disorderly home where the husband wasn't doing his job as the leader. There are alot of scenarios we could list here, but these are a few. That's why it's mandatory to let God do the choosing. He ordained marriage for that reason. There is an order to even marriage. But that's another lesson. Moving along.

So, for how long does the Proverbs 31 woman bring her husband good? “All the days of her life.” If these words are heavy to your heart, or maybe your marriage is wavering, let me suggest to you that this means you must draw even closer to God to see your marriage through. If you are wondering how in the world you are going to love and respect this man you married, FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE…let me give you the answer. By fearing God. That's right, fearing God. Sometimes we go through things to get to a specific part of life, and a specific place in God. So humility, as hard as it may seem in this time is what will draw you closer to your husband. Closeness with God equals closeness with your husband.

Your walk with God is the key to having peace in the midst of a struggling marriage. You cannot control your husband’s walk with God – only your own. But when YOU faithfully pray, read God’s word and obey it, it will change the course of your marriage. So do you need a change of course today? Pursue God, pursue the Proverbs 31 woman and pursue bringing your husband good all the days of your life! You won't regret it.

This completes lesson 2 ladies, I always enjoy sharing with you guys. I open the comments area for your sharing as well. Remember, what you share may help someone else. We are all different and no two of us think alike. With that in mind, please share your thoughts, comments, and stories. If you want to reach me personally, you have the website information also the info below.

Word of prayer

Lord, thank you for bringing us together another week. I pray that this word reaches all who need it at a time when they need it. Thank you for being God in our lives and giving us the ability to learn and to live your word. I pray for marriages all over that are estranged, broken and on the verge of demise. I speak life into them and pray they find You and place you as the center of their marriages. For You are God , You can do anything but fail.  Thank you for being a God of restoration. In Jesus' mighty name Amen.

Thank you for visiting with me and allowing me to share this information. I will see you ladies next week with lesson 3. Hope to hear from you guys.

urbeauty4ashes@gmail.com

(209) 407-1980 (call or text)

Prayer request-prayer page on website.